For everything God created is good,
and nothing is to be rejected
if it is received with thanksgiving.
(I Timothy 4:4)
“He is a wise man who does not grieve
for the things, which he has not,
but rejoices for those which he has.”
Patrick came into the house grinning with one hand curiously
behind his back. It was not a special day for us so I gave him a quick kiss
and tried to look over his shoulder to see what he was hiding. I cringed!
My dear husband backed away still smiling, and I could see a
sparkle in his eyes that told me he was ready to make my day. When he
handed me the pot of mums, I tried very hard to smile. I think I said a
weak “Thanks,” along with the question “What is this for?” I knew my
disappointment was not hidden from him, because I watched the light
fade from his eyes and the grin turn into pursed lips. He shrugged and
said he was just thinking of me and wanted to say, “I love you.”
I like mums, sort of, but they are not my favorite flowers. They don’t
speak to me about love. To me they did not convey the message that he
was thinking of me. I would have wanted roses, but he brought mums.
He wanted me to know the love he had for me, and I gave him cordial
“Thanks.” I had expectations he failed to meet, and though I may have
uttered the word thanks, I was, in truth, ungrateful.
Over the years I have come to learn that my ingratitude often stems
from my self-centered desires, but, when I see the gift and recognize the
heart of the giver, I am filled with thanksgiving. It does not matter what
is placed in my hands. It only matters who placed it there. When I see
that God sends the rain as a gift, even when I long for sunshine, I will be
blessed. Thanks for the giver is so much greater than a thank you for the
Heavenly Father, You are the Giver of all good gifts. You gave me
a special gift of love through a man to teach me. Thank You for lessons
learned. You are the Giver and the Gift! Amen!
– Carolynn Scully –